New terms are being added to the dating dictionary of Zen-Z, and in the continuation of that, floodlighting is now trending. Floodlighting is the tendency to influence the other party to get into a deep relationship quickly by sharing a lot of personal, sensitive information about themselves at the very beginning of the relationship. Suppose, on the first date, a person told a story about how neglected, mentally or physically abused he was in his past. And after hearing that, you became deeply sympathetic towards him. You made a commitment in your heart to provide him with emotional support, to heal him, to make him feel the best possible. You also started taking actions accordingly. In this way, you became influential and beneficial in a very short time in that relationship. And started using you for his emotional support. However, he is not willing to give you the same kind of emotional support. That is, he is not as interested in listening to you as he is in talking about himself. Without taking the responsibility of keeping you well, he wants to use you to be well himself. Why floodlighting? According to British author and dating expert Matthew Hussey, people floodlighting for 3 main reasons. He is not as interested in listening to you as he is in talking about himself. He wants to use you to feel good without taking responsibility for keeping you well He is not as interested in listening to you as he is in talking about himself. He wants to use you to feel good without taking responsibility for keeping you wellPhoto: Prothom Alo 1. He wants to quickly win the other party over to his side without giving time to the relationship and wants to get close to the relationship. Influences the other party to be emotional towards him. In a word, forces the other party to get involved in a relationship or fall in love in a way. 2. He cannot bear the emotional burden of the experience or feeling he has gone through alone. Therefore, he wants to quickly put some weight on the shoulders of others and lighten himself. He wants to recover through the sympathy of others. He can receive the same kind of sympathy or emotional support from more than one person.
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